是不是去看望老师的,大多不是他们曾经口中的“好学生”?为什么?

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我当了十年老师,送走了3届学生。有时候和同事们聊天时说到这个问题,他们总是简单地总结成学习好的学生冷漠,没良心,学习不好的学生虽然学习不好,但有人情味儿。

我就是啊是啊地答应着附和过去,好让这个话题快点儿结束。

我自己想过深层的原因。一是学习好的学生大部分走得要比学习不好的学生远。上学时也许会觉得某位老师非常好帮了自己一把,但随着自己遇见更多的人,见识到更精彩的世界,曾经的帮一把这就显得很微不足道了。想起老师,依旧心怀尊重敬意和感恩,但没有那么强烈的想要去看望的意愿。而且后来上学和工作的地方都在大城市甚至国外,回家真的任务挺多,看望老师没那么高的优先级。

第二个原因要更深一些。学习好的学生大部分都比较清楚地知道自己什么时候该做什么,这也是他们学习好的原因之一。上课的时候会听课,做作业的时候会自己做而不是抄,出操集会的时候会按时到位,出去玩的时候会好好玩等等。所以他们目的明确,更多地也会把自己成绩好坏的原因归结为自己的努力或者放松。那些一路成绩稳定不曾跑偏的好学生,知道自己是要上大学的,更好的甚至知道自己要去哪个大学学哪个专业,所以来学校就是学习,遇到不懂的问题就会问,老师只是这条任务线上的NPC。

第三个原因是,其实当了家长就会知道,自己的孩子优秀,一是靠孩子运气,二是靠家长从小的培养和付出。如果一个孩子从小就在家长的爱和关注中长大,也因此各方面都很不错,那么他会非常清楚地感受到,谁对他的付出更多。平时在学校,老师对他的那些关注和关心,根本不算什么。

然而,一个家境一般,父母的重视程度也一般的孩子,如果遇到一个正常的好老师,跟他说一些鼓励的话,犯错的时候及时纠正他,或者关键时候拉他一把,这些举动对他有非凡的意义。所以他们会念念不忘,觉得是老师造就了他,对他有恩,毕业之后也会常去看望老师。

最后说一些题外话,从事教育行业十年了,我越来越认识到,家庭教育对一个孩子的重要性。好学生不是老师教出来的,差学生也不是老师教出来的。每一个孩子都是一个家庭的缩影,父母的观念、想法、态度、经济水平……全部都会在孩子的身上反映出来。

父母是孩子第一位老师,也是终身的老师。而学校里的老师,是每个孩子在人生道路上都会遇到的NPC,影响会有,但和父母相比,还是太小。

机器翻译:

I have been a teacher for ten years and sent away three students. Sometimes when talking to colleagues about this problem, they always simply sum up that the students who study well are indifferent, unconscientious, and the students who do not study well, although the study is not good, but it is human.

I just yeah promised to echo the past, so that this topic will end soon.

I have thought about the underlying reasons myself. First, most students who learn well go farther than students who do not study well. When you go to school, you may feel that a teacher has helped you very well, but as you meet more people and see a more exciting world, the help you once seemed insignificant. When I think of the teacher, I still have respect and gratitude, but I don’t have the strong desire to visit. Moreover, the places where I went to school and work later were in big cities and even abroad. I really had a lot of tasks to go home, and it was not so high priority to visit teachers.

The second reason is deeper. Most of the students who study well know more clearly when and what they should do, which is one of the reasons why they study well. I will listen to the lesson during class, do it by myself instead of copying when doing homework, get it on time when I go out for exercises, and have fun when I go out to play. Therefore, their purpose is clear, and the reason for their good or bad performance is more attributed to their efforts or relaxation. Those good students who have stable grades all the way and have never gone off course know that they are going to college, and even better they know which university they are going to study which major, so coming to school is to study, and if you don’t understand, you will ask, teacher Just the NPC on this mission line.

The third reason is that in fact, when you become a parent, you will know that your child is excellent. First, it depends on the luck of the child; If a child has grown up in the love and attention of parents since he was a child, and is therefore very good in all aspects, then he will feel very clearly who will pay more to him. At school, the teachers’ attention and concern for him is nothing.

However, a child with a normal family background and the same level of importance as his parents, if he meets a good teacher who is normal, say something encouraging to him, correct him in time when he makes mistakes, or pull him at a critical time. Has extraordinary significance. So they will never forget, think that the teacher made him, have a kindness to him, and will often visit the teacher after graduation.

Finally, to say something off topic, I have been in the education industry for ten years, and I have increasingly realized the importance of family education to a child. Good students are not taught by teachers, and poor students are not taught by teachers. Every child is the epitome of a family. Parents’ ideas, ideas, attitudes, economic level…all reflect on the child.

Parents are the children’s first teachers and teachers for life. The teacher in the school is an NPC that every child will encounter in life. The impact will be there, but it is still too small compared with the parents.

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